February 2007 met me grinning from ear to ear as I travelled from New York to Florida to hang out with two of highschool besties. Why was I so happy? Well I had just completed all the criteria necessary for me to graduate, ie there was a new doctor in the family!
I am failing to mention that as I am travelling down to Ft Lauderdale, Florida I think about how Mr Allen was in Miami, Florida. For the first time we were in the same state at the same time...well as far as I knew. However, he was doing a study course so meeting him was of course out of the question.
We of course texted each other and called each other all the same. This my friends however were all about telling me how they never knew I "giggled". I did not giggle, just merely laughed with a more musical tone when talking to Stephen.
So on this one night my two friends and I wanted to go to out and we decided to go and watch a movie at Aventura Mall. On the way there I get a text basically asking me if I were free we could meet up for dinner. Now, I can say years later I had a panic session in the back of Ori's car and laughed histerically and said No I am not gonna meet him. Which Ori and Arona (two of my besties) simply said oh yes you will! To this day I love them for the moment they talked me down from wanting to climb the outside of the Aventura Malls building to calmly going to meet the man of my dreams(literally!).
I wont say it was love at first sight because I was too freaked out to even remember I could see. Stephen was sitting down on a bench waiting for me. I saw him before he spotted me and I stood behind a pillar and would not move. (Remember this is the young lady who is soon to become Dr. Cooper!) My friends did not even realize I stopped walking with them for a few seconds. I called Stephen on the phone and let him know I was there and that I saw him. I quickly lost alot of my nervousness as I burst into laughter when shortly after introductions Arona threatened Stephen if any harm came to me. (Gotta love her!!)
My besties went into the movie theatre and we went over to the Cheesecake factory right across the street. I would lie to you if I said I remembered every word that was said every intonation. Not at all. I do remember the butterflies and our first kiss, a stolen one it still makes me giggle.
Another first in our journey. First time being in the same state, first time meeting, first date, first kiss! First time I realized just how much Stephen gave me indigestion (yup thats what im calling it for now).
Saturday 14 May 2011
New Years? Your Place or Mine?
It was quickly drawing towards the end of 2006 and the year was a world wind. I met "this guy" named Stephen. I was preparing for my Final Exams. I was counting down the weeks to finishing my elective rotations, and I would finally meet Stephen.
Yes I said I would finally meet Stephen. Well or so I had hoped. At this point we were a fixture in each others lives and family and friends knew our names. Despite communicating daily and living literally three hours away from each other, we never met...physically.
Stephen and I were star crossed lovers of the future. We internet dated! We did the instant messenger, video chatting, constant text messages and never ending phone calls daily! We just did not get to that fork in the road where our paths crossed, rather than only our stars.
At this point I will admit I started having romantic feelings for Stephen but I denied it tooth and nail. I had suitors telling me that it was a fictional relationship based on a fantasy of who we believed each other was. (of course they would say that!) Was this true and if it were who cared right? I surely was not interested!!
I will say today that my constant fighting of what was right in front of me actually helped form our relationship. Had I consciously seen Stephen as a suitor I would have questioned everything about our relationship and ran for the hills, but I didn't.
So why didn't we meet? Well there was alot of back and forth about who would come to where and when? So we finally decided we would bring the New Year in together in Times Square, meaning he would travel to where I was at the time.
My roommate got tired of hearing about this mystery man and I think she was more excited than me to meet him. Then I got the call, or the instant message not sure which one anymore. He couldnt make it something came up, he would make it up to me. Now the girl that is consciously making an effort to pursue a relationship would have said "ANOTHER WOMAN." Instead I said "Its ok, I didn't really want to be in a crowd on New Years day anyway."
So instead New Years 2007 I lay on my bed in an apartment in New York in an empty apartment, chatting to Stephen online. I did not understand my mood until almost a year later, I was deeply disappointed. I lied it was not ok, I really did want to be in a crowd watching the Ball drop, but I wanted to do that with Stephen! He owes me a New Years in New York so I can watch (for the first time) the ball drop in Times Square!
Yes I said I would finally meet Stephen. Well or so I had hoped. At this point we were a fixture in each others lives and family and friends knew our names. Despite communicating daily and living literally three hours away from each other, we never met...physically.
Stephen and I were star crossed lovers of the future. We internet dated! We did the instant messenger, video chatting, constant text messages and never ending phone calls daily! We just did not get to that fork in the road where our paths crossed, rather than only our stars.
At this point I will admit I started having romantic feelings for Stephen but I denied it tooth and nail. I had suitors telling me that it was a fictional relationship based on a fantasy of who we believed each other was. (of course they would say that!) Was this true and if it were who cared right? I surely was not interested!!
I will say today that my constant fighting of what was right in front of me actually helped form our relationship. Had I consciously seen Stephen as a suitor I would have questioned everything about our relationship and ran for the hills, but I didn't.
So why didn't we meet? Well there was alot of back and forth about who would come to where and when? So we finally decided we would bring the New Year in together in Times Square, meaning he would travel to where I was at the time.
My roommate got tired of hearing about this mystery man and I think she was more excited than me to meet him. Then I got the call, or the instant message not sure which one anymore. He couldnt make it something came up, he would make it up to me. Now the girl that is consciously making an effort to pursue a relationship would have said "ANOTHER WOMAN." Instead I said "Its ok, I didn't really want to be in a crowd on New Years day anyway."
So instead New Years 2007 I lay on my bed in an apartment in New York in an empty apartment, chatting to Stephen online. I did not understand my mood until almost a year later, I was deeply disappointed. I lied it was not ok, I really did want to be in a crowd watching the Ball drop, but I wanted to do that with Stephen! He owes me a New Years in New York so I can watch (for the first time) the ball drop in Times Square!
Wednesday 27 April 2011
Care A Lot!
This may seem like a sophomoric posting of a 7 year old. However, this song is a song I have sang on countless occaisions through out my life. The Care Bear Movie was my favorite movie as a child. Stephen learnt this little tid bit about me our first telephone conversation. Less than a week later, guess who got an email with the song attached? Stephen thinks this is the day he won my heart. Who knows....
CARE-A-LOT
Carole King
LYRICS
Care-a-lot is a place we all can go
Whenever we choose it
Care-a-lot is a feeling we all know
We never do lose it
We can find a secret place
To rest and make a new start
If you don't know where it is
Look inside your heart
Care-a-lot is a playground you can find
For laughing and swinging
Carousels playing music in your mind
For dancing and singing
Sometimes you feel so glad
Sometimes you feel so blue
Share your feelings, it's not bad
Feelings are not you
When you're lonely, don't you fret
You're not alone, you just tend to forget
Care-a-lot is easily found
You've been there and you have friends who care
Don't you let your sadness get you down
It always helps when you sing a song
Good cheer carries you along
Darkness leads to sunlight
A new day comes--it's all right
Care-a-lot is a place you'd like to be
Riding on a cloud
You'll care a lot, it's a rainbow fantasy
For laughing out loud
Care-a-lot is a place we all can go
Come to Care-a-lot, it's a place we all can go
Come to Care-a-lot
Share-a-lot
Care-a-lot
© 1985 Elorac Music (ASCAP)
I just closed my eyes and sang the song and I felt light and happy. I was just instantly filled with joyous thoughts and felt that I could do anything in this world. The thing is I also saw Stephen's face. Hmmm Maybe he did plant a seed on that night in my heart. Who knew?
CARE-A-LOT
Carole King
LYRICS
Care-a-lot is a place we all can go
Whenever we choose it
Care-a-lot is a feeling we all know
We never do lose it
We can find a secret place
To rest and make a new start
If you don't know where it is
Look inside your heart
Care-a-lot is a playground you can find
For laughing and swinging
Carousels playing music in your mind
For dancing and singing
Sometimes you feel so glad
Sometimes you feel so blue
Share your feelings, it's not bad
Feelings are not you
When you're lonely, don't you fret
You're not alone, you just tend to forget
Care-a-lot is easily found
You've been there and you have friends who care
Don't you let your sadness get you down
It always helps when you sing a song
Good cheer carries you along
Darkness leads to sunlight
A new day comes--it's all right
Care-a-lot is a place you'd like to be
Riding on a cloud
You'll care a lot, it's a rainbow fantasy
For laughing out loud
Care-a-lot is a place we all can go
Come to Care-a-lot, it's a place we all can go
Come to Care-a-lot
Share-a-lot
Care-a-lot
© 1985 Elorac Music (ASCAP)
I just closed my eyes and sang the song and I felt light and happy. I was just instantly filled with joyous thoughts and felt that I could do anything in this world. The thing is I also saw Stephen's face. Hmmm Maybe he did plant a seed on that night in my heart. Who knew?
A penny for your thoughts....
In 2006 I was in New Jersey doing an observership at one of the hospitals there. It was as this time I got my famed email from a friend introducing me to Stephen. The weeks that followed her email, I will say I emailed Stephen maybe about 5 or so times, if that much.
Stephen had quickly become a faded memory for the most part, except for those late nights when he would pop up on line and say hi. His hours were really not too cool for me, especially since my dorm room had no internet and I had to go down to the hospital to use the computers. Yet one fate filled night I stayed online beyond my 10o'clock retiring hour. Who should pop up? After about an hour of chatting for some reason I asked Stephen for his number.
Now I am going to stick a pin in this story for now...Just to give some background information. I was broken hearted in 2004 and swore off of relationships for the rest of my life. Therefore, by the time I met Stephen I had sufficiently healed from a heart break and was quite successful in remaining single during those two years. As a result of this, Stephen initially was merely a break in my daily routine. A refreshing break at that, so asking Stephen for his number was far from me being interested romantically. It was just a natural evolution of the aquaintence.
So back to the moment of asking for his number. Stephen gave me his number and I called and for the very first time I heard his voice. I liked it, it was soothing yet so surreal. I can still remember the dark computer room with the only light being that of the computer screen. I sat in the corner of the room and talked to this stranger (he really was) for almost 8 hours straight.
The irony is that two things from that conversation I remember. First is me telling Stephen about my LOVE of The Care Bear Movie as a child. The second was me telling him how much I abhored relationships and how I did not believe in love. The latter came up because of a song that I could never get right.
"A penny for your thoughts, a nickel for your kiss, a dime if you tell me that you love me." Or is it a dime if you tell me that your mine? Just like the email was a turning point in my life. This night where we had our first telephone conversation proved to be a catalyst in our relationship.
In a matter of less than 8 weeks Stephen went from A's friend, to a guy I chat to, to this guy named Stephen.
The funny thing is despite an 8 hour call he never did earn his penny.
Stephen had quickly become a faded memory for the most part, except for those late nights when he would pop up on line and say hi. His hours were really not too cool for me, especially since my dorm room had no internet and I had to go down to the hospital to use the computers. Yet one fate filled night I stayed online beyond my 10o'clock retiring hour. Who should pop up? After about an hour of chatting for some reason I asked Stephen for his number.
Now I am going to stick a pin in this story for now...Just to give some background information. I was broken hearted in 2004 and swore off of relationships for the rest of my life. Therefore, by the time I met Stephen I had sufficiently healed from a heart break and was quite successful in remaining single during those two years. As a result of this, Stephen initially was merely a break in my daily routine. A refreshing break at that, so asking Stephen for his number was far from me being interested romantically. It was just a natural evolution of the aquaintence.
So back to the moment of asking for his number. Stephen gave me his number and I called and for the very first time I heard his voice. I liked it, it was soothing yet so surreal. I can still remember the dark computer room with the only light being that of the computer screen. I sat in the corner of the room and talked to this stranger (he really was) for almost 8 hours straight.
The irony is that two things from that conversation I remember. First is me telling Stephen about my LOVE of The Care Bear Movie as a child. The second was me telling him how much I abhored relationships and how I did not believe in love. The latter came up because of a song that I could never get right.
"A penny for your thoughts, a nickel for your kiss, a dime if you tell me that you love me." Or is it a dime if you tell me that your mine? Just like the email was a turning point in my life. This night where we had our first telephone conversation proved to be a catalyst in our relationship.
In a matter of less than 8 weeks Stephen went from A's friend, to a guy I chat to, to this guy named Stephen.
The funny thing is despite an 8 hour call he never did earn his penny.
Tuesday 26 April 2011
You've got mail!
I love the cliched saying that "A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. " For Stephen and I that step was an email, sent to us both on the same day.
Although I cannot remember the date or the time of day I will always remember how it all began. A friend of mine emailed me one day, to introduce me to a friend of hers. She simply stated that she thought we were so much alike. It was unlike her to do that but then again, she is so unpredictable who knows.
I decided to send her friend a quick note. I told him simply, " you do not know me but I am a friend of A and she sent me your email. I am just sending you a hello." I did not think anything of it and I never knew that by my simple act of reaching out to a friend of a friend, in simple erica fashion, would shape the rest of my life.
This although may not seem really romantic, or mysterious, or this grand story of love, but this is the long and short of how I met Stephen D. Allen. Since cupid sent her email Stephen and I started an amazing journey of love, friendship and so much more.
This blog EASMARRIED is in tribute to the journey of one man and one woman who fought, time, space, and all odds to be together. Although the journey has been a long one, it is far from over as I have realized, We have only Just begun.
You've got mail!
Although I cannot remember the date or the time of day I will always remember how it all began. A friend of mine emailed me one day, to introduce me to a friend of hers. She simply stated that she thought we were so much alike. It was unlike her to do that but then again, she is so unpredictable who knows.
I decided to send her friend a quick note. I told him simply, " you do not know me but I am a friend of A and she sent me your email. I am just sending you a hello." I did not think anything of it and I never knew that by my simple act of reaching out to a friend of a friend, in simple erica fashion, would shape the rest of my life.
This although may not seem really romantic, or mysterious, or this grand story of love, but this is the long and short of how I met Stephen D. Allen. Since cupid sent her email Stephen and I started an amazing journey of love, friendship and so much more.
This blog EASMARRIED is in tribute to the journey of one man and one woman who fought, time, space, and all odds to be together. Although the journey has been a long one, it is far from over as I have realized, We have only Just begun.
You've got mail!
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